Being a bridesmaid can be a big commitment

One of your dear friends has just announced her engagement and suddenly you realize you may be on the hook to help her plan the wedding when she inevitably asks you to be a bridesmaid.  Standing up in someone’s wedding can take varying degrees of commitment and you should be aware of what is expected of you before you accept the honor.

If you aren’t able to commit the time, effort and money to be a part of her wedding, you should be up front about it from the start.  When she makes the offer (assuming it isn’t in front of an audience) you should reply that you would be honored to be part of her special day, but need to make sure her expectations are realistic.  Let her know that your time is limited so you may not be able to make every vendor appointment.  You’ve got work and family obligations and they shouldn’t suffer because of it.  If your financial situation is a little bleak, let her know that you are happy to
buy your own gown, but that you may not be able to foot the bill for extravagant bridal showers or bachelorette parties.  If she’s a good friend, she will understand your situation and make sure
you are comfortable contributing in whatever way you can. 

The most important thing to remember is that communication is key!  Don’t just agree to something and then not show up or flake out on the bride.  Offer to help in the ways that you can and be honest with her from the beginning when you are not comfortable with something. She will be grateful to you for not causing drama later on!